Going from best friends to dating beautydating com
So is the trend toward intimate friendships between single men and women a good thing? If you haven't read my previous articles on biblical dating, you'll be helped in thinking through this issue by reading "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." Based on some of the principles found there, let me offer a couple of practical reasons why I believe such friendships to be generally unwise, and then I'll suggest a positive role for friendship among singles in the Christian community.
In this series of articles, I've raised several biblical principles regarding the way we should treat our brothers and sisters in Christ.
Romans 13:8-14 calls us to love others, to work for their souls' good rather than looking to please ourselves.
More specifically, verse 10 reminds us that "[l]ove does no harm to its neighbor." Romans 14:1-15:7 offers a discourse on favoring weaker brothers and sisters above ourselves, valuing and encouraging that which is good in the souls of others.
Obviously, I don’t know much about the writer, but clearly she is not your average girl.
She is articulate, funny, and opinionated at the very least.
Basically, the question seems to be how exactly single Christians should relate to members of the opposite sex in that large and awkward zone between "we've never met" and a deliberate dating or courting relationship. I won't repeat the full history lesson here, as several Boundless authors have already discussed it (Joshua Rogers most recently, in his excellent piece "Your Friendgirl Deserves Better").
Essentially, the historical reality is that until 30 or 40 years ago, long, intimate friendships between men and women in which each served as the other's emotional confidante, relationship adviser and "best buddy" were far less common than they are today.
There are literally hundreds of apps to choose from, and if you’re a busy guy looking for something meaningful, scrolling through an endless stream of music-festival selfies probably isn’t the best use of your time.
If your friends are already pairing the two of you up, or can’t quite say your name without naming your “other half,” then you might want to start rethinking your “we’re just friends” stance. Got an invitation to a wedding, party, baby shower, housewarming, or little Haley’s graduation? Either way, you’re jealous for a reason, and you should probably decipher why that is before you start looking like a crazy person. If so, it’s probably because they’re totally awesome and wouldn’t spill your deep, dark, and shamefully embarrassing secrets with the world. You trust your BFF implicitly, and that’s an amazing trait for any budding romantic relationship. You know how they say you’re never single if you have a best friend? Somewhere along the line, “friend” just didn’t seem to cut it anymore, so you became “best” friends *BFFS, Biffles, Besties, etc.* but now that doesn’t seem to really describe how extraordinary your friendship is.
[Read: 13 tricky pros and cons of dating a best friend] #2 Words are now beneath you. That’s right, when you really gel with someone, you can communicate without using language. No matter what the occasion, or how well you know the host, your plus one has already been determined. At this point, you don’t even make other plans on the weekend. Whenever you’re together, all you talk about is how fierce your friendship is *okay well, not the time, but it comes up, okay?
You are much better off speaking your mind, as that will significantly increase your chances of finding a reader who will relate and agree with what you say.
So, here is the profile that I simply had to post here.